Kids split across 2 homes

[RogueRascal]

Rubbish situation with my partner, we've not shared a room for nearly 4 years (together 15) but have 2 kids under 3.

2 separate agencies have referred me to woman's aid, he hates me and puts me down constantly.

anyway Tuesday night I left. He took my toddler out the car and I am now with only the baby. My hearts vreaking, I feel sick and can't stop crying without the toddler. I don't know what happens next, spoke to women's aid to ask but they aren't very helpful if I'm honest.

not sure why I'm posting, know no one can help make this better but I'm so low right now I really don't know what to do. I've never been away from my kids, feel like part of me is missing and not sure I want to go on

I might get a video call later which I know should be exciting but. I think I'll just cry throughout. Unsure

Will he be going to work at any point, so will need care for the toddler?

Did you discuss leaving with him and what arrangements did you agree for the children?

I'm sorry you are heartbroken and hope you find the best resolution for the children quickly.

Yes but he's off at the moment, tbh that's why it's gotten to this point as being around me was a problem for him.

Communication is poor between us, has said he will get them both taken away from me but he cannot stand the baby so I'm hoping he's bluffing. Has only spent a couple of hours with her once or twice alone so would be awful if it happened....

Ok. So does that mean there was no agreement about you leaving; you just walked out anticipating taking the children with you?

What did you think the short-term child arrangements would be for spending time or living with each parent?

I assume he is the father and on both birth certificates?

Did you plan to leave, so have a home with adequate space and facilities for the children? Support from anyone IRL like family?

Why is threatening to have the children removed from you; just to hurt you or because he thinks he could prove to a judge that he'd provide better care?

How long is he off work for?

Sorry for all the questions, but there isn't much to go on from your posts.

I guess the most important question is are you safe and taking good care of the baby, as you mentioned not sure about wanting to go on?

sorry for what you are going through I understand how this must feel for you and how it will be all consuming without your other child.

he’s not allowed to stop you seeing your other child and you can’t stop him seeing the baby.

i see two options. One is to move back in. Even if this is short term for you to get a long term plan. If you share a house he can’t stop you from moving back in.

Other option, with a family member go around there walk in as it’s your house too and say you are seeing your child

he’s making these threats to get you thinking you’ll lose the kids but that’s just a scare tactic though I’m sure it’s worked because as mums it’s what we fear the most.