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Ex-partner’s behaviour

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alwaysachore · 20/06/2026 23:22

Hoping to get a bit of advice. I left my partner of 15 years and father of our two girls 7 months ago. Left as he was controlling and overall a difficult person to be with and I had enough! He reacted badly and things were hostile so me and the girls moved out to my parents home. He stands by that he would not have moved out as doesn’t feel he should as it is me ending the relationship. For context, he has the girls at the very most every other weekend and I have always been the main parent, even when together. We have recently signed all the paperwork to agree a transfer of equity for him to buy me out but this weekend, I presume as he knows that things are about to be completed, he has been verbally abusive and making accusations towards me and saying he won’t sign off as why should he give me the equity in the house. Where do I go from here? It may blow over, but I was thinking that if not, a solicitors letter may help things along? (as the finances and/or control over me are his main concern). Thank you for reading!

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arethereanyleftatall · 21/06/2026 07:28

Are you married (I know you said partner so just double checking) and were both names on the deeds?

millymollymoomoo · 21/06/2026 10:44

I wouldn’t be involving solicitors at this stage. You need to keep him
sweet tbh - if he refuses and you have to recourse to solicitors you could be in for a very lengthy and costly set of legal process before you see any equity. a solicitors letter at this stage has no legal basis and likely to just get his backup.

id silly acknowledge his hurt and resentment but state that it’s the best interests of the children to agree this and move on.

hopefully he will come to his senses and agree.

if he doesn’t and continues to be controlling you may have no choice but initially if tread softly ( even though it would pain me to do so !)

I’m presume you’re not married and own the house 50:50 as joint tenants…….

alwaysachore · Yesterday 20:26

We aren’t married and have the house as joint tenants. Yes, really don’t want to go down the path of solicitors and court if I can! I think you are right, keep things as calm as possible and hope that he comes to his senses 😅

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