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So angry and sad

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LeaveMeBee · Yesterday 22:04

Been separated a long time. He moved out 6 years ago. Stupidly we continued being intimate for a while after...I believed we were working on reconnecting, but it became obvious he was just having his cake and eating it.
Still not divorced, not even started proceedings - for years he was emotionally abusive/threatening his life etc. I've ended up with PTSD and became an absolute shell of a woman...meanwhile he's magically recovered, seeing someone new and appears to be living his best life.

What I was not prepared for this far down the line, was the level of heartbreak I still feel..and the anger is like nothing I've ever known.
I am so so angry: angry he's taken the future I envisaged with our kids (and one day grandkids) Angry I am having to split Birthdays and do separate Xmas.. angry I sometimes don't see my kids every day.

I just keep crying and don't see the point in looking to the future - my future was with him, we were childhood sweethearts and I feel utterly bereft that my life is not how I thought it would be.
I have better days, but on the whole I just feel like I'm filled with anger and sadness most of the time and I'm struggling to find anything to look forward to 😥

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IdratherhaveaPinaColada · Yesterday 23:29

Hi I am almost divorced after a 20 year marriage, I thought we were happy but I found out he had an affair and a 5 year old child. I was heartbroken and so sad at loosing the future I thought I would have… all I can say to encourage you is that after two 1/2 years I can now look forward to a life where I plan my future and make decisions for myself, a life without being lied to. The sadness I felt has diminished over time. Once you acclimatise you and your children will have a better life, it’s is hard but things will get better once you can take control of your life again. Do the things you enjoy when you get the chance and I hope the future will be brighter for you.

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