Positive teenager stories post separation?

[Y0gamummy]

Marriage hanging on by a thread. We've not been happy for years now and while I've held on, been desperate to avoid splitting up the family because of the impact on my children (now 16 & 13), it's becoming increasingly clear that the status quo is not to their benefit. DH is now grumpy or detached much of the time and struggling to keep a lid on his resentment. There was a nasty incident in the car last night when he was shouting and swearing at DS, which DD told me about when they got home. This hasn't even been discussed, he hasn't told me about it and I haven't brought it up because he can't cope with any discussion that implies he did something wrong. The fall out from that conversation is not worth it for the atmosphere it would result in. I'm looking for positive experiences of teens coping well with separation as this is my overriding concern. DS has an important exam year coming up and DD could be quite vulnerable to having everything she has known change. I know it wouldn't be easy but I also know I'm pretty resilient. Going for a promotion at work that would make things easier financially too. Main concern is impact on DC. I just keep imagining a situation where they worry about DH and the fact that he's all alone when they're with me. DH isn't close to his family, not happy in his job and doesn't see friends often.

i have 15 nearly 16 year old son, plus 2 girls. I was in a similar situation to you and worried the same. He has honestly thrived since I left. My children are happier, you won’t regret leaving.

DC are often more resilient than parents. Mine were sad but more relaxed and noticed the house was calmer without exH in it.
They didn’t skip a beat at school.
They didn’t want to move between two houses (and exH didn’t provide housing for them anyway). Older teens don’t want parents problems or contact arrangements interfering in their social lives. They are fairly self absorbed.
Exh behaviour was damaging their self esteem, stressing everyone out and dc were starting to copy his behaviour so it would have affected their own relationships if we had stayed as he was a terrible role model. It drags down your mental health if you are stepping on eggshells and has more of an impact on dc than you think living like that.
ExH has also thrived he has new job, hobbies, friends and eventually new dp. He didn’t enjoy parenting and the resentment was largely because he wanted his child free life back. Be prepared for him to walk away from much of the responsibility - many men do.