How did your teenagers handle your divorce? Obviously everyone is different.
But im really struggling to not feel hurt by my son when we have always been extremely close.
Background is he has never gotten on with his dad, and he is happy that we are seperating, he has almost begged me to leave him many times. Dad is moving out today for many reasons.
Son is 15. This happiness was until he realised that we were going to be on benefits, not have as much money, will be moving to a smaller house etc and some things will be changing. Dad will barely have anything to do with them going forward.
Anyway, son has adhd and we think maybe asd aswell or an overlap of the both. Hes very black and white.
At the moment he is very consumed by his own life as most teenagers are. But im finding it hard.
Every morning he runs late for school causing a lot of household stress. Sometimes misses the bus which means me doing a 30 mile round trip to take him
I have repeatedly reminded him that today is moving out day. I have begged him to not be late this morning and not put stress on me as I am extremely emotional and stressed myself already.
Got up this morning. He still wont get up!!!!
The other day he went to eat in the dining room and commented on what were the boxes in there and why. His dad's moving out belongings. Hed forgotten!
Husband is taking large tv in the lounge. I cant afford a new one. I have a small one in bedroom and son has a large one in his bedroom. Ive asked can we temporarily use his and he has my smaller one, hes said no.
We have a large garden that husband looks after as im disabled. Now hes not of course. I asked son will he help with the garden. No!
Why is he behaving like this putting stress on me through this already difficult time when its something he wanted. He doesnt seem to be doing it on purpose , he seems genuinely oblivious to what is going on and how the rest of us are feeling. How can I make him understand?
Any ideas? Weve alwsys been so close and I wanted us to be a team now, along with my daughter. But looks like its not working out that way