Co parenting - School uniform

[Whatisbest26]

I co parent 50/50. It’s court approved so we just stick to the schedule and have very little need to contact each other. He lives with his parents and I find his Mum very controlling.

At the start of the year, I bought 3 sets of school uniform. My son came home from their house on Friday wearing uniform from their house. I would normally wash it and he would wear it back on Monday.

Except his Nan has prepped my son and told him he is not allowed to wear her uniform back, he must take it in his bag and wear my uniform back. I only have my 3 sets here, none of her uniform.

AIBU - Just send back 2 sets on Monday.
YANBU - He should just wear her set back and that’s it.

It’s all so petty, I probably should just let it go.

It must be really frustrating when things get so petty. I would honestly do whatever caused less friction for my DC’s sake.

It's a natural inclination to push back on this level of control especially when it's unreasonable (it does sound bonkers and petty). However, I agree with the previous poster and just do what makes things smooth for your son.

I have a friend who had this exact same drama it got absolutely ridiculous her son is in my sons year - they’re teenagers now and he never goes to his dads probably partly to do with what an idiot he. When he was younger

the child had 2 coats
2 beavers uniforms (they were charged for the extra badges!!!)
2 lunchbags
2 water bottles
2 pairs of trainers
“weekend clothes” at each house - I remember an incident where he wanted to wear a Pokemon hoody to a party and it was no that’s at my house scenario… and your mum is taking you…. She went and bought the same hoody

It Was beyond petty to be honest you need to speak to him, not his mother and tell him to sort this out otherwise it’ll escalate and the child will pick up on this and not want to
go.

If the uniform he arrived at dad's in wasn't returned I assume you are now 1 down...
So send him today wearing the uniform from nans.
Surely the 4/5 uniforms can just go between the 2 houses.