Hi all. I'm sorry if I sound dramatic because emotions are so high atm I'm probably not being entirely reasonable. How on earth do you cope when you split up and your child is staying with the other parent?
My DS is almost 3 and autistic. Me and ex split in April after 10 years together and DS is going to be staying with him Tuesday and Friday nights atm as he's still in daycare but no idea what to do when he starts school. Ex is difficult and just doing what he can to hurt me and wants to take me to court. Suddenly trying to be super dad after watching me struggle and doing bare minimum most of DS' life. I of course want them to see eachother and they have a good bond, but my god I have found it heart wrenching the first night away from him last night. I slept about 3 hours and have cried the rest of the time. We still co sleep and I just felt lost. I'm back with him now and he seems fine just way more cuddly than usual and wouldn't let me put him down at all.
No idea at the point of this post but I'm just hurting so much. So many things going through my head, is 2 nights too much or is that a good amount for a 3 year old? He's planning on taking me to court either way and I'm just exhausted from this whole thing and know I have a battle ahead of me. HV is trying to get me to talk to a charity around domestic abuse because she thinks he's a coercive controller which I would agree with. I have no worries about him as DS, but I do worry how we're going to coparent together when he doesn't compromise on anything. He's continuously calling all the shots and my opinion doesn't matter. I want to live nearer to my mum 25 mins drive away and he's objecting to DS going to school there because it's not near him. It's all such a mess I'm feeling defeated but I can't sit around and cry all day everyday I need to be strong for my boy. Does this get easier?