Hi all, wasn't sure which topic to post this in! Me and my partner of 10 years have separated and I'm about to move out (still living with him) and move 25 mins away to be closer to my family (I live in Wales). DS is turning 3 in August and was about to start nursery in September (Just 2 and a half hours a day for the first term). He was offered his school place last week, and if I move area I would have to find another school and have been told I can fill in a late admissions form and a school may have place for him in September. The issue I have is my ex. He's the most controlling man I've ever met (hence why we're separating because I've finally snapped) and he's saying 'nope he's not going to school there he can stay in the one up here'. Although I am the main caregiver and that's another story as he wants to take me to court because I've asked for a slower transition when it comes to the amount of overnight stays as DS is about to be assessed for autism and still can't communicate. We still co-sleep and he's still very reliant on me, my ex just has him for the day on Fridays at the moment and I do the rest. I just wanted to know where I stand here if he really objects to him starting school there?
It makes the most logical sense as my mum doesn't work and will be a stones throw away if needed for pickups etc as we both work full time and he's just not putting DS first and is only thinking about what he wants. In his words 'I don't want him going to a scruffy school down there'. He's always seen my hometown as beneath him even though his hometown is just half hour away 😂 There are some great schools that will accommodate his additional learning needs. If he was to stay in the school we already have a place for it would be too much of a commute for him back and forth as that usual 25 min drive becomes an hour with traffic that time of morning. Just feeling so overwhelmed and want what's best for my son and also trying to put myself in the equation and be near my support system.