Am I too old to start again and still have children?

[BunnyLover92]

I'm 33, almost 34 and my husband has been stringing me along for years about having kids. We've been together 14 years and married for almost 4. Ultimately he keeps pushing it back, and whilst I've tried to be understanding of his reasons it's making my life unliveable - if I ask him for reassurance he gets angry and gave me an ultimatum that if I don't stop asking for reassurance he wants a divorce. That for me was the nail in the coffin.

Am I too old to meet someone and have a baby? I know things move quicker in your 30's but I obviously don't have years and years. I'd love to hear some positive outcomes of anyone who's gone through similar.

Definitely not too old, but you should split up ASAP. I have friends who started relationships in their late 30s/early 40s, and then had kids. Time is on your side but you should leave NOW.

If the last time you were single was when you were 20 I understand why you're worried about time. I think when you're 20 you feel you need a load of time to decide if the persons right. But at 34 when you meet someone you know yourself better and (especially after a bad break up) you know what you deserve. So can commit quicker than seemed possible at 20.

You're not too old, no. I started seeing DH at 34, engaged at 35, married at 36 & started trying for DC at 37. DC1 arrived when I was 39 & DC2 at 45 (DH wasn't ready to start trying for DC2 for a few years & thanks to Janet Jackson having had a baby at 50 he thought that we had loads of time and couldn't be convinced otherwise) so we didn't really start trying again until I was about 42/43. Both natural/unassisted. No guarantees of course but you're not too old. I agree with PP's though that you need to leave asap and move on with your life. Best of luck x

In your position I’d get on and freeze your eggs, so you have some fall back if you don’t meet someone or to use as your fertility declines; leave the husband and then make decisions with a clearer head eg. Going solo v waiting for a new partner. At 35-36 I’d probably use the eggs with a sperm donor if new life partner not in sight

Def not too old.

I was 37 when dh died - we were ttc but I had unexplained infertility

I met someone a year later. Said I wanted kids , he had 3 almost 20’s + - he agreed ttc - fast forward and lots of ivf and I gave birth at almost 44

im now 52. She is 9.

your dh doesn’t want kids. Or doesn’t want them with you. Harsh but true

split. Divorce and meet someone else if you want kids

Oh you deserve so much better 😟14 years and he’s still delaying!
The thing is, your relationship is not in a good place and that’s not good if you bring a baby into the mix anyway.

He’s likely your first serious relationship and you’ve grown and changed a lot while he still thinks he’s 25!

I think it’s time to separate and build yourself back up. Then someone lovely will come into your life.

I met dh at 33, married at 35, baby at 38. With apologies to all those other women, I fell pregnant at the first time of trying.