As we move closer to the conditional order, plans are starting to be finalised and the draft financial order is ready etc. I’m buying my husband out of the house (hopefully).
for now life carries on as normal. We are living together and in same bed. Doing stuff with kids together.
we are both so anxious about telling the kids.
one is currently in yr 4 and being assessed for autism.
one is in year 6 and transitioning to secondary school in summer. It’s a time of endings and change anyway. The end of primary. There have been a few tears along the way.
basically I found out dh had been texting and meeting another woman. No affair as such but they had both been inappropriately close for “work colleagues” (daily texting, secret lunches, lots of heart emojis) He also hid a significant debt from me. He also refused to get a better job (instead focusing on a job that he loves but really doesn’t bring in reliable income). He’s obsessed with a hobby too and has neglected family time/diy/housework etc in pursuit of this hobby. We are still in our first honeymoon as he said he never wanted to waste money moving and he would rather live and “enjoy life”.
im not innocent either. He says im overly critical. I am as I’ve become resentful of the lies etc over the years.
there is no love from either of us. I suggested therapy before I found out about the other woman. But he said no as “they will just blame the man”
when I found the texts I knew it was over.
back to my question. The kids. How the hell do we tell them? I’m paranoid that they will hate us and it will upset them at such a key point in life.
I was going to tell them soon but actually I’m not sure that is best. He won’t be moving out til August at a guess. He has no money. He needs me to buy him out before moving out.
I’ve posted here before and read mixed things about telling them right away vs a few weeks before the change.