Feeling weirdly lonely because of the sun?!

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I don't miss my ex AT ALL, but I've woken up today feeling really lonely for the first time in 2 years - and I think it is because of the sunshine! Teenagers are lazing around or revising, lots of barbecue smells from neighbours, beer gardens full of shiny happy people - or so it seems. I was even invited to a party tonight and just can't face walking in alone.

As said, I don't miss being married so it's weird to feel this way. In winter I think I relish just hunkering down but in summer everyone is expected to be out and enjoying themselves I guess.

I know it's a bump in the road, but can anyone else relate to feeling worse when the sun shines? Feel free to vent here!

I can relate to feeling worse when the sun is shining and you’ve got nowhere to go and no one to do it with. But absolutely cannot relate to turning down an invitation to a party because you don’t want to walk in alone! That’s bonkers. Get yourself spruced up in some summer gear and go!

You must go to the party. You never know who you will meet, what next invite will come.

I can relate to feeling lonely because the sun is out and having no one to do anything with. I’ve spent the day making the garden look a bit nicer but wish I had someone to go for a drink with. I did have plans with a new-ish single friend but she’s been flaky and cancelled. Absolutely get yourself to that party.

Yes go to the party. Be with others 😊

I know what you mean, I took my 12 year old for a walk, my 15 year old has ditched me for a friend

Luckily I have lots of family so hopefully a BBQ tomorrow if the weather lasts

I wanted to do a picnic on the common by my house 🏠 but alas don't want to go by myself

Though I have vowed to do online dating in June (holiday out the way first)

I did well last time with this so hopefully be okay again (though last time they were physically to far away, so I will remember this for next time)

My mother always told me she met my father when she went to a party she didn’t want to go to!
Im a widow and yes I can now hear my neighbours sitting outside with their baby, further along a family and friends are having the first bbq of the year. Here I am after my DD has gone back to uni and it’s just me and my cats. I’m normally never lonely - occasionally just a bit wistful. But with my DD gone it just emphasises it.
My son (22) lives away and has pretty much adopted an ‘old boy’ who’s a regular at the shop he works at. Today he took him to a local footie match - says he’s a bit lonely so my son has decided to take him out and about on occasion. Last weekend they went for a pub lunch then a local castle for a walk about. I think it’s going them both good. So get yourself out there and embrace the weather!

Haha, I should have read these earlier! In my PJs on the sofa while the party goes on without me!

I wasn't in the mood though, so it's fine. It's rare I get into this kind of doldrum so will just go with it and wallow. Hope you all have a lovely Sunday, I'll meet a friend for a walk and a vent and hopefully will start Monday a bit more positively!

I felt this today as well...and no party invitation! Everyone seemed to be doing family stuff, even just working in the garden together.
It's daft cos we wouldn't have been doing anything together anyway we'd just have been fighting 😅...i don't miss him AT ALL

lol, I just made almost the exact same post as you. Even down to the party alone!

It’s not. If it was full of close friends sure I’d have no issue. But not walking into a gathering of couples chatting away and not knowing who to talk to. A single woman is not universally welcomed believe me

I always feel a bit down when the weather's sunny. Watching my neighbours going out together or sitting chatting in their gardens. Strangely I don't feel like this when I go on solo trips abroad and I do like living alone.

@Flowersdie Ha! I don't regret not going at all, had a lovely Sunday pottering about without a hangover. And I agree completely about how hard it is to walk in alone - I didn't know many people (maybe just 2 couples) and would have been the only single woman. Not easy at all. Don't feel bad about not going.

In better news, it's started raining so everyone is taking all their garden furniture in for the next few days @BigAnne !

Good, that will dampen their happiness 😂

I'm so confused? It's Saturday here? Are you in the UK, OP?!

I’m single too. I would have gone to the party. It’s a night out and an opportunity to meet new people who you can get to know better. And then get invited to more parties.

Very newly separated & I completely relate to this. I miss having a partner…but not STBX himself. I did a lot without him anyway as he’s less social but some things are nicer to do as a couple. Glad you had a good day on Sunday. I’m about to go & watch our town’s carnival parade with DDog. Will probably run into people I know, as it’s a small town. DS aged 20 is in bed after a 10 hour restaurant shift yesterday & am determined not to dump myself on him too much anyway!