Discovered my husband is having an affair with a woman he works offshore with. There have been many infidelities with me wanting to end the marriage, in 2015 when discovered again he took an overdose. Years passed and intermittently anger would flare up.
In 2025 he was the cause of me having a breakdown, telling me I’m a waste of space, shit mother, I should kill myself. I was very unwell and hospitalised.
Another episode and I ended up in a refuge.
Stupidly I went home to his promises of support and apologies.
Things were ok but always an undercurrent of anger as I wasn’t working then.
This time home on leave he has played out an affair in front of me, in the past I’ve found out afterwards. I’ve challenged him and he refuses to discuss.
Tonight he returned and put gifts he bought for her away in his work bag in the loft.
We rowed he grabbed me and took my phone and threw it, repeatedly. In the middle of the row he spat full force in my face.
I called police as I’d already logged my concern days ago. He left the house and on his return trying to get back in I was to alert police he was back. He’s been arrested. It’s a mess.