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Divorce/separation

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Ive done it, after 23 years ive finally done it!!

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Whyme02830 · 19/04/2026 13:15

I have a different username but I used to post a lot on here about my relationship.
Husband had depression and has never fully returned to "normal" from it completely withdrawing from the family for the past 5 years and happy to just sit and watch tv 24/7 for the rest of his life whilst dragging us all down.
Ive been so scared to do it , but today I have finally told him and the ball is now rolling . Today is my first step to a new life. I am ecstatic and terrified in equal measure.
We are now in this horrible limbo part where there is a horrible tense atmosphere.
He has said hes going to move out which is the best result I could have hoped for ,but today is only day 1 and things could change. Anyway, what will be will be. Ive told him im deadly serious. He doesnt agree with anything ive said and just thinks me and the kids should happily live this way. For once im standing up for myself and putting myself first instead of him.
I may post a fair few times on here looking for advice in the coming months depending what happens.

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Pashazade · 19/04/2026 13:21

Well done OP, good for you. Remember you’ve got this, you can achieve a lovely happy home again. Keep going!

Iloveitalianfoodyum · 21/04/2026 12:58

My ex also suffered from depression and it contaminated mine and kids lives. It took me a while to realise it though.

I left him last year. Best thing I ever did. There will be times when you question your choice to end it trust me there will be plenty of those times and he will claim this is all your doing. Mine used that to manipulate me by saying to me I’m splitting the family I am doing it - it is all down to me all this unhappiness I am causing.

ride that wave op because it isn’t you. It’s him. Get out from under that cloud .

best of luck and please remember there will be tough days ahead but another day is around the corner we and that one won’t be as tough and contains clearer thinking.

whycantitbecalm · 21/04/2026 13:10

Huge congratulations 🥳 i remember day 1 very clearly, but once the dust settles and you get some energy back, the feeling of freedom is amazing.
so thrilled for you!

wossisthen · 21/04/2026 13:14

wow! Is this the guy who made the dent in the sofa? Huge congrats and well done

wossisthen · 21/04/2026 13:15

also my ex found his anxiety cleared up once he’d moved out and dumped the kids on me full time. Funny that

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