50-50 custody - holidays

[GoatGetter]

anyone have a 50-50 custody split ?, or opinions would you accommodate exchanging on holiday on his own for 8 days missing his “turn” ? Thanks

Can you clarify what you mean OP?

Are you saying the ex wants to go on holiday on his own on the days he’s meant to have the DC?

And is he wanting to swap it with a different week or just miss out on those 8 days?

Do you have any plans on those days?

Apologies yes rather than stick to the schedule he wasn’t to go on holiday on his own rather than swap a week, we don’t do week on week off so wouldn’t be as easy

It’s completely up to you.

I would be fine with this as long as it didn’t affect my plans/work etc.

It’s a pain he couldn’t book it on a different week and I’d be careful he doesn’t start taking advantage but I think being flexible with each other makes co-parenting so much easier.

Have had 50.50 for 3 years. I take the kids away more than she does but it doesnt really change the rota - we just stick to the days planned. We do 3 (nights), 2, 2 and then reverse for each fortnight we get the same days etc..

I took kids away over Easter (1 week) - the weekend we were away was her weekend but no adjustments made. Likewise in May she takes them away over my weekend. Luck of the draw. It gets silly if we say "you owe me 2 days etc."

If you think you might like to do that yourself one day (and why shouldn’t you) then you can agree on the basis that 1. He asked first rather than told you and 2. You’ll ask him to do the same for you one day.

Flexibility is good.