In a new relationship….10 weeks down the line…I’m in the process of divorce after husband suddenly left after 17 years together, two children….he got with a girl from work. Originally posted my whole life under a different name almost a year ago.
Anyways…a lot has changed, I got through the tears and anger and met new man. He’s lovely, so chilled, caring, understanding etc and works around me and my two children.
Thing is, I feel sooo anxious all the time. Not that he’s causing this, but I’m constantly overthinking and coming to the worst conclusion. I’m bound to, I get that, I was left suddenly and it was painful. I didn’t see it coming and never thought it would happen to me. I just don’t know how to get rid of this anxiety.
He’s a confident man, but also overthinks, but in different ways to me. He has admitted to shutting down at times and is aware that this has caused him problems in previous relationship, but it’s part of him that he doesn’t think will change. I must admit, he is very straight talking and honest with me, which I think is great, but there’s only so far he’ll go when opening up.
It’s early days and I think it’s great that we can have quite frank conversations, but when he shuts down, my mind goes into overdrive. I know we are still learning about each other and it will get easier as we go on.
Some of you will say I probably shouldn’t be in a relationship if it makes me so anxious, but it’s more about my situation, the scars from being thrown away by a man I thought I’d be with forever. I would feel like this with anyone so it’s not this particular person. I’ve gone from a man who is care-free and very chilled to someone who is an overthinker so I know this will take some getting used to.
We’re both really happy with how things are going, I guess it’s just that fear that he will walk away.
just wondered if anyone else has been in a similar situation and did it get easier with time?