50:50 child split after divorce

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Please tell me it gets easier. I have lost my children to their father for half the time. I miss them so much. I have no idea if they are happy or sad. I can’t tuck them in for 5 nights. I hate this. I feel like waiting for things to go back to normal. I dropped them to their dad’s house Friday and I get them back Wednesday.

I don't have any advice because I couldn't cope with that either. Just sending moral support. Do you have something nice planned to do with DC on Wednesday?

Thank you for this. A home day on Wednesday with us playing in the garden and enjoying our local walk across the field. Fun day out Thursday.

That sounds really nice! Hopefully someone who has experienced this will be along to give some advice. You're halfway through the time! I don't know if it would help to distract yourself with something, is there anything you've always thought you'd like to do but it's not easy with DC? I don't know how old they are but mine are end of primary/ beginning secondary yet I still can't have a shower in peace so I would start there! 😂

Is their dad a supportive and loving father? I imagine this would be very difficult if not.

My ExH is a lovely dad, so I never had to worry about DC's well-being while they were with him, and we talk regularly about them and we both always had phone contact with the DC, whichever house they were at. It takes a while to adjust, but it got easier. I used my child free time to do things for me that I wouldn't otherwise have the time or energy to do, and when I got them back I was a better mum for having replenished myself.

Is that 50/50?

You haven’t lost them to their dad - you are sharing your joint children …..

find some things you like, go do them.

He probably feels the same when he doesn't have them. I hate 50/50, would much rather it was more but it isn't. But maybe change the rota - We have (nights) 3-2-2 which then rotates the next week so on a 2 week period both have same days and same amount of Saturdays etc.