My husband and I have been having issues which got worse during pregnancy and I’ve been detached ever since. I’m the breadwinner and primary carer. He works long hours and I only see him on weekends. For years he has said he will be home more but this hasn’t happened. Our relationship has been so strained and I just stopped loving him.
The issue is I don’t want to leave him, not because I’ll miss him but I will miss the little support I get from him.
Being the breadwinner I also worry about my financial security for me and my child. My child will live with me because he won’t change his work to be school friendly.
I don’t know if it’s worth working on our relationship or if it’s time to separate. I don’t know if anyone else has been through the same but I have no one to turn to.
To be frank I feel so down about this. Yesterday after drop off I sat in the car and cried. I messaged me husband who messaged me to say he’s sorry I feel this way - no effort to call me or check up on me when I rarely message him when I’m upset. He then went out drinking with his friends and didn’t even bother calling me when I told I’m down before going out. To be fair he doesn’t go out with his friends much but acts like this just makes me feel so much more alone.