Son wants nothing to do with dad after us separating, can I get him removed from school communications?

[Happyandfree974]

Hi everyone, im sorry if this isnt the best board to write this question on. Please advise and ill move it if so.
My son is 15. To put it simply I am in the process of divorcing my husband, mainly over how he treats our son amongst other things.
I dont want to get in to the details on here but due to how his dad is with him and him also having adhd he acts up a lot in school.
He leaves school in just over 12 months time.
I have always done all the communication with school and rightly or wrongly kept husband out of the loop of most things because of his reactions . For example I have been in for some meetings that husband doesnt know about. This is because I have been trying to protect my son from his dad's reactions.
Anyway, now we have split, son doesnt want any contact with his dad , and his dad is happy with this. This has not been done through the family court, just our own decision that can be changed at any time .
I want to get husband removed from the school email list etc but is that possible as he still has parental responsibility?
Most of the time school email me directly but things like end of term reports and parents evening invites go to both parents.
I am doing this to protect my son. Any advice?

From gov.uk

Under the principles of the UK General Data Protection Regulations 2018 (UK GDPR) and the Data Protection Act 2018, a child or young adult can assume control of their personal information and restrict access to it from the age of 13.
However, until they reach the age of 18, their parent is entitled to request access to or a copy of their educational record even if they do not wish them to access it. Nonetheless, a parent is not entitled to information the school could not lawfully disclose to the child under the UK GDPR or to which the child would have no right of access under the Education (Pupil Information) (England) Regulations 2005.
A local authority with parental responsibility for a child is also entitled to inspect or receive a copy of the educational record of a child who is the subject of a care order.
Example A non-resident parent who has limited contact with their child contacts their school to find out how well they did in their exams. The child and the resident parent do not wish to share that information, and notify the school of this. The school refuses to release the information on the basis that the child is old enough to control access. It has therefore breached education law by failing to provide information to which the non-resident parent is entitled.

There is a load of other info here https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/dealing-with-issues-relating-to-parental-responsibility/understanding-and-dealing-with-issues-relating-to-parental-responsibility

I used to handle this situation within schools. We followed the Government Parental Guidance document linked to above. I would send that to the oarent and advise which section we were following. I would always ask them to contact me if they gad questions. It is a well written document with lots of situation examples. Do please also ote an education parent is much broader than a normal understanding of a parent. Sorry for typos - I.possible to edit on the app.

A bit naughty but possible, (ex education employee) tell school your contact details have changed they should give you a form. Change exs details to your own or another trusted adult. Explain will never realise if you have always done the contact with school.

The persue a court order so this can happen

At 14 my ds told his school I wasn't to be kept up to date and they respected his wishes...
At 15 your ds can tell them he wants privacy and he will be listened to.

I work in school, of course you can remove him. Just change your priority person to you, and add 2 other relatives. Plenty ov kids in our school have no contact with dad noted on their file. My own kids have no contact with dad.
He has no idea where they go to school, school never needed to know.

I did this…speak to the school and explain. I was priority contact and secondary was put as my Mum at the time.

If he is not seeing him how can he react? He has no audience.

Nope. Parental responsibility will over rides this at secondary

I have personally known a school where one parent presented an active safeguarding risk to a 16 year old (16 year old was no contact and had reported the parent to the police). The safeguarding lead favoured the abusive parent, repeatedly and regularly allowed that parent into school, sent information to that parent and ignored professionals' requests to safeguard the young person.

This would not deter me from trying to tackle this issue if I was the OP. I think it's better if the young person raises the concerns and risks themselves.