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How to remove credit association when linked by Mesher order mortgage?

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Allaroundthehouses · 16/03/2026 21:12

Hoping someone can advise whos dealt with the same. Sorry its long just want to give context.

Posting on behalf of my DH as he didnt think mumsnet was the place for a man to ask questions!

By way of background, DH separated from exW 7 years ago, divorced for 4 years. Financial order has their marital home under a mescher order (exW lives there with DC (we have them every weekend before I get bashed), house gets sold when DC turn 18 or leave full time education or a trigger point is met (exW remarries or cohabits for more than 6 months continuously).
Under the mescher order, DH pays half the mortgage and gets 50% of the equity when sold.

Advice needed: he has separated all other joint financial links from her - bank accounts, life insurance etc but is still financially linked via the mortgage. Ive heard you can write to experian and get them to note on your credit file that whilst you are linked via the mortgage due to a divorce financial order you have it noted that there are no formal financial links so her credit rating will not impact his (and mine) as we've worked hard to build up an excellent one.

The reason this is now a big concern is shes just got engaged to her bf of 11 months and weve just found out hes been in an IVA for the last 4 months. They're not planning to cohabit or marry until the mescher order expires (yes, they have inferred they are holding off so 50% of household costs continue to be paid by DH for the next 5 years as they are broke) but theyre spending money like water on days and meals out every weekend, weekends away (not speculation, it gets plastered on facebook and my MIL gets asked to babysit if they go away in the week) which she claims her partner is paying for it all (while in an IVA 🤨) She constantly pleads poverty to my DH but has told me before she cant imagine working full time again as she likes her free time. Dont care what they do with their life but no idea where all this money is coming from they seem to have and if theure spending what they dont have and she ends up in debt (or an IVA herself which woudnt be the first time) we're really concerned it will impact my DH's credit score as hes linked via the mortgage.
How do we get credit agencies to note the link is only via a divorce order?
Thanks in advance

OP posts:
millymollymoomoo · 17/03/2026 13:12

You need to file a notice of disassociation with the credit reference agencies and ask to remove any financial associations due to divorce.

you can also add a notice of correction on his credit file stating that the only joint liability is the mortgage and that there are no other connections due to divorce.

this is why I’d never agree a mesher - her new partner will move in and get the benefit of your husband paying but they’ll always dispute and claim he doesn’t live there .

sellingrocks · 17/03/2026 15:38

I was advised by all the credit agencies - when I tried in 2024 - that a notice of disassociation can’t be filed until any joint liabilities are concluded - eg the joint mortgage

they can make a note on the file but in reality they don’t have to take it into account

JohnofWessex · 17/03/2026 15:41

Can you talk to whoever it is that administers the IVA

Allaroundthehouses · 17/03/2026 20:13

JohnofWessex · 17/03/2026 18:18

Ah!

This is interesting based on what you have said

https://mydebt-plan.co.uk/iva/iva-spending-rules-no-one-talks-about/?utm_source=trustpilot&utm_medium=company_profile&utm_campaign=logo_click

It might also be worth asking some questions about where the new partner lives

Apparently with his parents and hes not at hers 'as often as we think he is' according to her. Yet according to her Facebook and the DC hes there at least every weekend minimum.

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JohnofWessex · 17/03/2026 20:35

Can you get a Credit Report it would show where he has applied for things from

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