How do people organise life across two households?

[mumof3three3]

I’m curious how other co-parents manage the logistics across two homes.
Between school events, clubs, expenses, handovers and random messages, it's hard to keep track.
Do most people just muddle through with messages and shared calendars, or is there something better people use? And if there is anything that helps organise, is there a fee?
Thanks in advance!🙂

There are co-parenting apps you can use to share calendars and messages - often useful if you find you need evidence to show a court about what has been said/scheduled/how much contact each side is actually having.

Make sure school sends all emails to both of you.

We muddle through but end up messaging at least daily about everything from PE kit to parents' eves, Duke of Edinburgh, birthday presents, etc etc.

I hate being in touch with him so often and staying amicable but we have to be really.

@LaurelSorrel thank you, that's really interesting - never knew such a thing existed! Are they still useful if you are not in a court situation? Any you would recommend?

@applescentedcandle I can totally relate – it’s exhausting sometimes. We’re mostly using WhatsApp and a shared calendar just now but things still seem to get lost or need loads of messages. I was wondering if there was a better way that cuts down the back and forth?

I try and message my ex as little as possible. I find if we stick to the same routine week in week out then it’s only the exceptions that need a communication.

Useful

Living pretty near to each other makes the most difference, particularly now the children are older.

Having duplicates of most things

Making sure school know they are moving between two homes and that there will be leniency if homework is in the wrong place

It's been a lot easier since the children have had their own phones

We use an app because he was and still is abusive and it keeps contact formal but also means there is a clear record

I expect him to sort his own parents eve/school play tickets etc. it's for him to make sure he is on the school contact list.

Now the children are older it's mainly just medical information being passed on and holiday dates agreed