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Am I being selfish and breaking the family apart?

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Totallylostandconfused · 19/02/2026 22:13

I told my husband I didn't love him a year ago and tried to work on things but I feel he's pushed me away at every step. He's insulted me, name called and threatened in front of our children and blames me for breaking the family. I'm a terrible mother for wanting to be away from my children for half their life (that's not true at all - I just feel so miserable around him that I truly think I'm a better parent for now living separately as of the last month. He's constantly accusing me of having found someone else and can't face facts that I'm just so unhappy with him. He's stepped up a lot more and I think he's trying to win me back but when it doesn't work, he kicks off and says I'm being selfish or looking for something better and insults me physically or sexually. Am I being selfish and will I regret this?!

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Pancakesbythedozen · 19/02/2026 22:15

The only thing you may regret is not ending it sooner ime.

LadyCrustybread · 19/02/2026 22:55

No… you’re not selfish for trying to escape a horrible man who is being aggressive and abusive. Stay far away from him where possible.

MID50s · 19/02/2026 23:00

Definitely not selfish, he sounds awful! would you really want to get back with him anyway after this?

Manglewangle · 19/02/2026 23:04

No. I wouldn’t go back.

Thundertoast · 19/02/2026 23:10

Will you regret leaving a man who doesnt love you? No. Control and hate isnt love, no matter how much he might try and convince you it is. Dont ever let your children grow up thinking hateful behaviour is love.

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