What does a 50/50 arrangement look like

[Jessica60]

What does your 50/50 arrangements with childcare look like? What days of the week? How many days, what change over days? How many weekends? Need some set arrangements in place that will work.
Thank you

We did week-on, week-off with the changeover happening around school on Friday so one parent would take them to school Friday morning, the other would pick up Friday after school. Any essentials would be brought round later on Friday. During school holidays this shifted to Friday evening.

started as a kind of mid-week changeover, but soon migrated to week on, week off. Then with mid-teenage years that went to 2 weeks on, 2 off.

I think weekly is fairest, to avoid issues about particular activities, who gets weekends, etc.

Still leaves negotiation and flex for Xmas, mothers day, birthdays, etc.

Another pattern is 2:2:5:5. An example is one parent always has Monday and Tuesday night, the other weds and thurs and they alternate weekends.

So parent one picks up from school Friday night and has them until drop off on Weds morning, parent two collects from school Weds morning and drops them off Monday morning, parent one collects Mon and drops off Weds am, parent 2 collects Weds pm and drops off Friday am, with parent one collecting Friday pm, and the cycle starts again.

This has the advantage of the children having less of a gap between seeing each parent, and also has the advantage of each parent being responsible for childcare on the same days each week, as well as any other after school activities etc. It can work well for younger children, and for parents who work part time, not needing child care one week in 2 which is difficult to organise.

7/7 here, changeover on Sunday evenings and with a midweek dinner at the other parent.

I have:

Sun Night (7pm) Me
Mon Me
Tues Me
Weds Her (330pm)
Thurs Her
Fri Me (330pm)
Sat Me
Sun Me (to ger 7pm)

Then it gets reversed for the next week so in the above swap over me/her.

Then it just repeats. Only live a mile from each other so logistics are easy, school down the road for her. Times are like that in week as school finish times, tend to keep to that in holidays.

Works well, I would not want a week without them, plus sods law means I need to be away with work or have things on when with me.

3/3/4/4 here. Not started it yet but it will be:

Sun night - me
Mon - me
Tues- me
Weds until school drop off - me
Weds from school pick up - ex
Thurs - ex
Fri - ex
Sat morning - Sun night will alternate.

I have fixed days in the office so works for that. I commute when I don’t have DD so no worry about being late. We are also very flexible as it’s an amicable split.

Why do your children want to do?