I just want to thank you ladies on here who advised me a few weeks ago when I posted about the state of my marriage, how I suspected I had been abused (and still being abused) financially and emotionally for many years, and how I suspected my husband may have cheated on me. I now know it doesn’t take being physical abuse to be broken down by a man.
I’ve been playing my cards very close to my chest, and he doesn’t know that anything has been different in our lives.
I went to an STI clinic, who confirmed I had chlamydia which confirms he had been cheating on me. I’ve had some antibiotics and am on the mend physically. Emotionally may take some time.
We live in a small town, and the next 2 towns over are small too. I have visited every solicitor firm in the area for the free 30 minutes advice.
Not only does this mean he can’t use them as there would be a conflict of interest, but I’ve had some amazing advice from them all.
I’ve got copies of all of his bank statements, pension statements and premium bond accounts hidden in a safe space that he cannot access. Ive also got copies of birth certificates, marriage certificates and photocopies of passports and driving licences.
I’m going for at least 70% of the house proceeds (I would not stay here, I hate it here now after all these years) as well as half his pension and savings. I’ve always put him first, worked part time around the children and disadvantaged myself financially to do this.
I’ve had an appointment with my bank and provided we get what is estimated online for our home, I could get a mortgage in principle for a small 2 bed place which would be enough for me and my daughter. My son would want to stay with his father, but he is off to university this September. He would always have space in my home, I’d convert the lounge to a bedroom of I had to.
I’ve cried enough over him, this is the last time he treats me like shit, last time he makes me doubt myself and what I’m worth.
I’m taking the bastard for all I can get - and he doesn’t have a clue it’s coming!