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Mutually agreed to separate, ex now having doubts

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roastednuts123 · 08/02/2026 21:22

I don’t necessarily need advice but feel the need to write this down for my sanity. Married 15 years mostly unhappy. No kids (tried but failed and ship now sailed for me anyway). We went on holiday last September and agreed we’d reached end of the road. It transpires that at that time his head was being turned by someone (much younger) and although nothing happened there was a possibility it would. I was fine with this because I’ve been
unhappy for a while so to end things amicably and mutually was a blessing. Fast forward 5 months and his previous interest has gone (she’s not interested), I’ve lost weight and have been dating and generally enjoying life. I’ve walked in the door tonight to a barrage of shouting from him, saying he’s not going to sell the house or do anything it’s all on me. He’s admitted he’s feeling sorry for himself but he thinks maybe we moved too quickly to separating and should’ve had counselling. It’s the last thing I want to do and so I won’t do it, but isn’t this just the cliche situation?!!

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Astra53 · 08/02/2026 22:41

What would have happened if things had worked out with this other person? Your husband would have not given you a second thought! It has not worked out for him so he wants his old life back. You on the other had have moved on and are enjoying your new found freedom. Keep on with your original plan to separate permanently.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 08/02/2026 22:44

Well, you know what to do so no advice needed

what a bellend! He’s an embarrassment girl!

where will you live after the divorce, have you sorted that out?

well done on losing weight - there’s plenty of hot men out there to enjoy whilst you set up your lovely new, man free, home 🥰

roastednuts123 · 08/02/2026 22:54

Thank you both I needed to hear that! He is an embarrassment! I’m going to go into rented but we do need to sell the house to move forward. It’s just so unpleasant living with someone who is rewriting history a bit and making me feel awful for something that isn’t actually wrong!

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Jellycatspyjamas · 08/02/2026 23:17

I think it’s very hard for either party to be dating while still living together. He clearly shouldn’t be shouting and kicking off but I’d get on with it, one of you move out and get the house sold.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 09/02/2026 01:55

I’ve lost weight and have been dating and generally enjoying life.

Good for you!

🥳

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