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Separating but still live together - how do we share tasks

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Sunshinebee0282 · 08/02/2026 18:44

I am about to separate from my husband . We have been together a very long time and have teenage kids. My husband is going to hate me , at least at first and will probably not want to speak to me . But we will have to stay living together until we can sell our house.

Whilst that is going on , what is the best way to split everything etc especially regarding the kids. For example at the moment I do all the food shopping and I also pay for it and cook it. Should I continue to buy his food for him or should he break off and get his own? But that means im still paying the kids food and cooking it myself.

He pays alot of the household bills but they are all in my name . Should I change the names ao we have 50/50 each?

He washes all the clothes , presume he will stop mine. He does more housework, he will probably stop altogether.

I do all the school runs and all the kids lifts.

I also will need to claim universal credit to top up my wage.

All feeling very overwhelming. Easy to do if your able to communicate well but he wont want to at all. Luckily we already have separate bedrooms.

Any advice from people already in this situation?

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caringcarer · 08/02/2026 18:53

I'd do your own washing and let him do his and kids. I'd do your own shopping and cooking and for the kids. Leave him a shelf in the fridge and freezer. You both need to do household chores. Pay half towards bills like gas, electric, water rates and council tax.

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