Question for those with adult DC no longer co-parenting/sharing custody

[Thegrassroots26]

Those people who have been through a separation/divorce and co-parented or shared custody of kids and are now out the other side with adult DC. Did you find you got happier/life was a bit easier once the back and forth stopped?

I really struggle with the back and forth of having the kids and doing it all, then when it’s not my weekend I’m completely alone. I find it mentally really hard and crappy.

I know when they are grown they may be off doing their own thing, but I’m hoping that not playing back and forth will be better for my mind at least. Anyone can give me some light at the end of what feels like a never ending tunnel despite it being 7 years. One year until one is an adult and 4 for the other DC.

Yes I felt like that too and it’s much better if that gives you some hope. It sort of settles into a different cadence but one where there’s no pressure on you if that makes sense

It can only get easier as you no longer have to coordinate anything with your Ex as DCs do it directly. Both of mine were adults and I had no idea when they saw Ex although they might say it . I never had to see or speak to him again .

Thanks for replies. That’s good to hear. We are amicable enough, but even so I find the whole thing really difficult and emotional if I’m honest. I know there’s not much I can do, but it’s a relief to know it should get easier.