Im too scared to divorce because im physically disabled. Any tips please for the practicalities

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Hi everyone. I am DESPERATE to separate from my husband of over 20 years. Mentally I am ready to do it, financially I am ready to do it , but physically I aren't and I dont know how to deal with the practical things.
Husband currently does anything regarding diy or gardening (not much just the absolute basics) amd we have tradespeople for the big stuff.
I will be able to run and maintain a house by myself once in it (not this one ) with a mixture of myself, my teenage kids, and tradespeople.
But my issue is moving out of where we are now. We live in a large home, with a large garden, multiple full sheds and garage, loft full of stuff etc.

I know 100% that when I tell him , even if he doesnt move out until we sell , he will refuse to do anything whatsoever and he of course wont help me with my stuff at all. (That's fine)
Due to my pain and mobility issues I cannot physically pack, lug things around, move furniture, go up the loft, empty sheds etc. I will pay movers on the day. The thought of all these mammoth tasks just fill me with absolute dread and I keep putting it off.but im never going to get any better.
Any ideas please as im feeling overwhelmed

Is there some reason why you can't employ a moving company? They will pack everything for you, you just need to tell them what's yours/needs to go and what will stay. If there is a lot of stuff they will do the move over several days, not just on day.

I didn't know this was possible to do it over a few days . That would be great if so. I shall look into it

do you jointly own/rent the home you’re in now? Can you afford to buy/rent another while still paying towards this one?
if so bite the bullet and do it!

Removal companies will pack as much or as little as you want.

Our last move they packed everything loft, garage, shed, all the drawers, all the cupboards everything.

It’s expensive of course but it’s entirely possible. I think it took them 3 days to pack our house and then The cleaning company came in behind them to do a deep clean before the new people.

They will also unpack if you want them to.

If you need to do a sort out before you pack there are also “organising” companies that will come in a do that for you.

We had movers the last time we moved, DH job a relocation allowance and they did cost more but were worth it. Also if your kids could cherry pick anything you really want out if the sheds then you could get a man and van type clearance to do the sheds.

All sounding positive. Happy to pay for it as will help me so much. Also thought of paying my son and his friends to help put stuff im skips etc. They are 15 years old so big strapping lads.
We jointly own, neither can afford to leave until sold to release equity

Declutter people also help sort for moves - and they help you get rid of stuff as well. I follow Dilly Carter on insta (from sort your life out) and her teams do this lots.

I’m physically disabled.

last time I moved they packed everything for me.

Disabled here too.
Yep moving company all the way.
It will help if you can gather your stuff together. Not in boxes but like ‘all those books are mines’
You could do that ahead wo telling him re separation if that’s easier. Blame declutterring, reorganising the house whatever. And then you can take as much time as you need and do it little bits.

Before you tell him can you get him to help you 'declutter' & get rid of some stuff at the same time, save lugging it with you to a new property?