Name changed for this but I have been here a while and I am doing 50/50 with my horrible ex and I wish I wasn’t. I am sure there are other people in the same position. I would love to try to think of some positives to make me feel better, as well as ways to make it easier for our children.
I read a post on here ages ago when I was about to start this new life where a woman was saying she used the time when she didn’t have her children to work really hard at her job, varying her hours so she was working long hours on those days and shorter when she had the children, so she could be more present for her children and really spend time with them but also she managed to get promoted and a pay rise and they could do things she hadn’t been able to do before like go on great holidays. It helped me a lot to read it even if I am struggling to put it in practice.
if anyone has any positives I would love to hear them. And also anything that can make it easier for children.
if you think 50/50 is awful or that I should have fought harder to get more time with my child please don’t reply here. I am not able to change things and have had very good advice and I am looking for ways to work from where I am. And hope this thread might be useful to others.
i do have one thing that is positive for me but it’s so small I almost feel stupid saying it. But anyway; my child is a very picky eater. I used to get so bored making meals we’d all eat or making two meals each time. Now I eat with him when he’s here and when he isn’t I eat what I like - my ex was picky too so it does feel quite liberating to be able to eat things like anchovies.