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Is this dead

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Eminemum · 26/01/2026 22:52

Neutral advice needed.. I will present facts, you tell me if this marriage is dead or alive

>DH has high levels of irritability which seems to be getting worse with his age. If I point it out then he says you can talk. Or ‘whatever’. There is always a snappy comeback
>DH has told numerous times that he is done with the relationship. Or I can’t take this anymore. It doesn’t take much. Then the next day says it was said in anger
>DH has to have the last word and always speaks over people
>DH manages to go out with his mates/football/work events regularly during the week. It started as one night, now it can average about 2. I can’t remember the last time we went out.
>DH has thinks it’s ok/appropriate to tell me I am an immature child, need help, that he is the only person who does anything in the house. That I need to stop shouting and screaming, stop ‘going mad’ and the like if I ever call him out on anything.
>DH is a great dad but likes to have an opinion on everything. I mean everything.. Gets highly annoyed if he has not been told, basic stuff has not been run past him. No space to breath
> i appreciate that DH is under allot of stress, as am I. We both work full time
> we both work from home during the week so appreciate it can get abit much as we see each other around the house during the week. Is this what retirement is like?
> romance = watching Netflix.

there is more but let’s start here

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adv1ce1987 · 26/01/2026 22:58

What would he say about you?

Eminemum · 26/01/2026 23:01

Angry, unhappy, perimenopausal

Usual romantic stuff

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adv1ce1987 · 26/01/2026 23:04

I think the both working from home and getting under each others feet can be a major cause of stress. People get time away from the partners at work and destress confiding in close work friends and talking things through. Do you have any friends you could organise some YOU time with? Thin I would suggest a date night once a month where you can get out not just in front of the tv watching pap on Netflix

Eminemum · 26/01/2026 23:27

Thank you @adv1ce1987 maybe you’re right, I need to get out and do my own thing for abit. Working FT I struggle doing anything other than work, kids, straight int dinner, sleep, do it all again. Ive been tying to go in on days he is wfh to reduce the overlap and give us something to talk about other than the dish’s. Dont know who to confide in, most of my friends know him and I don’t want them thinking badly of him.

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adv1ce1987 · 27/01/2026 01:11

You need to make some new friends. Maybe try a group, hobby, somethnig that interests you. People needs someone to talk to to get things off their chest. It helps.

Lady2026 · 27/01/2026 01:29

The problem is he probably has a similar list about you...sit down and talk it's amazing what good communication does

Eminemum · 28/01/2026 01:17

He def does I’m sure. We have had lots of chats about it, both agree it’s something we shouldn’t do etc but end up in same cycle. When is it time to say we tried and failed and start actually being happy

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