I need some advice. Im getting divorced with my husband. It wont happen until I or he can save up enough for a deposit for a house so maybe another year. Im just tired of his narcissistic behaviour and the final straw was him looking at naked girls, even though it should have been when he hit me a month ago. The house we live on is on my name. He put alot of money into the house as we had to rebuild it and I put my hard work into doing all the painting decorating even labour work etc. My plan is to sell him this house at market value. We have added a bedroom so I could be getting around 60k profit all together. I would keep any profit, I pay him the deposit he put it and he keeps the house. The close people who do know what's going on are saying im running away from the situation and I will regret it.
I dont want to live in this house. I would rather he keep it. He should be living with the memories here not me. I don't want to be reminded of everything about him here. I want to be able to go find my own place, get a mortgage and start a fresh with things that only has my touch. I would leave mostly everything in this house and that way I know where and what my kids (3 and 1) are going to when he does have the kids. I know social services can check properties to see if its safe but I feel hatred towards this house now. I dont think im being stupid. I will go back to my work almost full time and it is a good wage. My sister is around to help if needed with children. Im happy to wait until he has the deposit to pay for this house and it might be better to sell the house to him whilst I am in then leave. Yes the price of houses will be higher and I shouldn't be letting him get it easy but personally there isnt a price on my sanity? I need my peace back. I've been done many times in the last 9 years but always been scared to leave. This time I know I am done as there is no anxiety and there is no respect left. He has no remorse and I'm actually excited to leave. Does anyone understand where I am coming from?