Hi me and my ex husband separated in October 2025, he moved 300miles away and took my eldest (11) with him ive stayed where we lived with our youngest (6) he is making my life so hard down here to purposefully get my youngest to go and live with him! He's contacted as many people as he knew and told them so many lies and stories about me to isolate me, him and my eldest will ring and video call over 20times a day, if I dont answer my eldest will send me aload of abuse. He has contacted my family members and even had my sister stay with him over Christmas behind my back and turned them all against me. My youngest is struggling and keeps asking to go and live with her dad and sister, I have to work so she goes to breakfast club which she fights every week... she currently goes to his on the half terms but she never wants to come home and he just does whatever they want, buys them anything, let's them stay up etc my eldest isn't interested in seeing me what so ever and last time she came down to me she was horrendous and rude and spent 90% of the time on video call to her dad constantly 😔😔
He's also left me with £28000 worth of debts, £10000 was a loan I took out in june for him to buy his car which he still currently drives, he said he would pay for one of the loans each month but hasn't sent me a penny. Also keeps asking me to transfer him the child benefit for the eldest and has applied for it to be transferred into his name. What can I do? I have no money, hes turning all my support against me, and my daughters hate me and the youngest dosnt even want to live with me 😔😔 feeling really low! What can I do?! I wish they would move back closer she can stay with him but so it would make life so much easier for my youngest?! He doesn't have family up there just a couple of friends! Any help