Using married or maiden name

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Not legally divorced yet, and still use my married name for everything. I feel reluctant to start using my maiden name again as I currently share my surname with my kids which I really don't want to give up. Also all my uni paperwork/general life paperwork is under my married name. However part of me feels strange using my married name as we are now separated. Can anyone else advise how they navigated this?

I've been divorced 16 years, still use my married name but plan to go back to my maiden name in the near future as I've just lost my mum & changing it back will help me feel closer to my parents. I never changed it before as ds was young, he is 22 now & has no problem with me changing it.

The only thing I left in my married name was the account the child maintenance went into. My ex demanded I stop using his name and in the last fuck-you I left it as it was. Must change it now the kids are both adults...

@teaformetoo I think you can keep Mrs and be "Mrs Tea Bloggs" then if your exh remarried thr new wife will be "Mrs Fred Bloggs/Mrs Bloggs" although that's quite an old fashioned/formal way of doing it.

I would keep my married name largely as it's nicer than my old name and I want the same name as DCs.

Do what works for you, there are no wrong ways. I went back to my maiden name the minute I got the lying, cheating twat out of my house. Others prefer to keep using their married name. I have two friends who picked new names entirely when they got divorced.

I’ve put in a deed poll to change my surname to my mother’s maiden name. For various reasons I didn’t want my own maiden name back, but still wanted a family name - this one links me to aunts and cousins etc

Kids are coming up to 16 and 18 they say they want to double barrel with my new name but they can do what they want.

I’ve given up enough of myself, I’m not spending the rest of my life with the name of a man I divorced.

I went back to my maiden name while the divorce was going through.
I won’t change it when I get re married.
The school used to call me Mrs Married name though ( I did tell them a few times but they obviously had a lot of parent’s names to remember).

I kept mine because I couldn’t be arsed to change it.

And because I know it really winds up XH new wife 🤣

I’ve decided to keep mine until my youngest turns 16 then I’ll revert to maiden name

Do whatever feels right. I think most divorced women keep their married names.

If it were me, I not change. I love my married surname (my maiden name was awful), and I’d want to stay the same as the kids.

My Mum kept her married name after the divorce. In her words after a friend asked her why not change it.

"Its my name, not his. It's been my name for 20 years. It's my connection to my kids. He took 20 years from me, I'll be fucked if he's taking my name too."

Married for 35 years. Been separated 6 months. I'm keeping my married name.
Like others have said, it's the same surname as my kids and my grandchild.

I've had my married name longer than my maiden name. And I like it

I went back to my maiden name by deed poll about a year after separating. Took a few more years to get divorced (husband dragging his heels) but it felt absolutely right to me to be back to my family name. My children were about 16 and 13 when I did it and I discussed it with them first. So they have a different surname to me but it matters not one bit to any of us.
Do whatever you feel is right for you, OP.