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Guilt at sending the kids to stay with their dad

3 replies

justtryingherbest · 10/01/2026 20:31

Please someone tell me I’m being ridiculous about this

my son (4) and daughter (2 next month) go to see their dad every Saturday. I drop them off before work and he drops them back for around half 5. Every other weekend our son will stay with him Friday - Sunday. But my daughter stays with me - she was breastfed as a baby and I’m currently weaning her off the boob which is goin well. He’s said he didn’t want to have her until she’s fully weaned! He has a new girlfriend and seems to be enjoying his free time - me on the other hand get zero free time! I’ve started seeing someone who I really like and I can see it going somewhere but with me never having an evening alone it’s not going anywhere very fast!

I feel really guilty about weaning my daughter just so I can send her to her dads. Am I awful? Why do I feel so selfish for wanting time to myself and to live my life?! I honestly feel awful!

OP posts:
HardworkSendHelp · 10/01/2026 20:37

No you are absolutely not awful or selfish. A happy Mum is a better Mum.

Zanatdy · 13/01/2026 05:58

Your DD is two so it’s not like you’re weaning her too early. Don’t feel bad, you deserve a life and some free time too.

Eenameenadeeka · 13/01/2026 06:17

Their relationship with their Dad is really important, don't feel bad they need to spend time with him.

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