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difficult ex!

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tracywoodroffe · 09/01/2026 15:43

My daughter is separated from hubby and has been for four years, and has had four years of problems from him with nasty messages and stalking behaviour. she has now moved 9 miles away to the next town and started again with the 5 children, they are happy and have new life and new schools but they still see their father every other weekend, he has a car and she does not so has to rely on public transport.
He is now insisting that on his weekends she must bring the children to his house on the bus after working all day, as it will cost him too much in fuel to come pick them up! he even works in the town she has moved to so could pick them up after work/ school he may have to wait for while after work. its just more controlling behaviour!
she said she will do it from time to time but cant do it every time, but just gets really offensive messages if she doesn't! He only sees 3 of his children as the other 2 will not see him anyway. is she being reasonable? she has not stopped him seeing the children at all.

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Myfridgeiscool · 09/01/2026 15:47

Sounds pretty standard behaviour from an ex!
I'd message him to let him know that they are being made available for contact at the agreed time and leave it up to him whether he collects them.

BookArt55 · 10/01/2026 08:57

No court order in place? Mine has the neutral place named that is in the middle so that is why I am checking.

If there isn't then I would remind him the kids are avaliable from x time every other weekend. And leave it there. Boundary in place and stick to it.

Whyherewego · 10/01/2026 09:01

If there's no court order in place I suggest she gets one in. Because once bus gate is resolved, he will just move to the next thing. Get it all settled properly, including pick up drop offs, holidays, birthday etc etc

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