Hi, I hope someone can help me. I have been with my husband 15 years and we have a child together who is disabled with lots of needs. I am the one that parents in terms of buys everything, school runs ect. I need to get out of this marriage and have for a year or so now but I don’t know what to do. My husband hasn’t been physically abusive for years not since way before we was married but he is verbally abusive and just makes me on edge when he goes into one of his outbursts! The jealousy he has towards me is awful. I have never done anything to him but he is constantly on at me everytime I leave the house, especially if it includes going out with friends. I love it when he goes out but it’s very rare ! He has an obsession with saving money and will always look at the cheapest things to do, or basically I am paying it! We both work full time. I am so miserable and he knows I am but just ignores it. I have told him many times I want to leave but he threatens me with everything you can imagine in terms of how he can make my life difficult. For example he would just not pay the mortgage! And if I left I would need to rent until the house has sold because regardless of how much he has saved there would not be enough to buy me out or get the mortgage on his own. I can’t stay here because he wouldn’t leave me alone and I have already looked into court orders ect but it wouldn’t stop him, he would do things like slash my tyres or whatever petty stuff he could think off. If he stayed in our home now he would just not pay the mortgage which is going to end up wrecking any chance of me being able to buy a house in the future. He will make sure he ruins Both our credit! He would be in denial and just not pay and I wouldn’t be able to pay rent and the mortgage to stop us getting bad credit. I would end up having to go to court to force the sale and spend every penny I have and more just to get it sold and would leave with no savings and awful credit and I know that is not the worst that could happen but my son needs stability and a home that we don’t need to be moved out of every year or so. He knows my fear and he uses it to keep me here. But I am just exhausted everyday and stressed beyond belief. I just want to leave but I will lose everything I have worked so hard to build. Sorry for rambling I am at my whits end and hope someone has some advise to help me. Ps I don’t want him to not see our child, my child needs that routine desperately. Thank you for listening.