How soon did you meet someone new?

[sunflower751]

Morning all

Urgh I am really struggling to see the light. In the middle of a divorce after my husband of 8 years (together 14) walked out and has had an affair.
He hid everything so well and I have no idea at the moment how I’m ever going to trust someone again. All I know is that I don’t want to be on my own forever and this really scares me 😢. I am 35 in February and we were going through fertility treatment which makes everything sting so much more.

I would love to find someone but feel like I’ve lost my chance and everyone will think I’m ’damaged goods’. After being in a relationship for 14 years I have no idea how to date! I’m worried I’ll be terrible at it.

Please can anyone share if you went through a divorce and met someone better? Success stories would really help me right now, with it being the lead up to Christmas especially I am in a very dark place 😢 xx

Lovely to read these stories!

I've been single 2 years, went on my first date last week... I don't think i am ready. But thought it was important to push myself out of my comfort zone and give it a go. Glad I did. Need a break 😄 🤣

I've healed a lot, been in therapy, but my kids are young and their health, the house still being sold, need to be my focus and I am thoroughly enjoying not having to think about amother person and doing things the way I want them for me and the kids. I'm enjoying the independence.

I was in a relationship whilst divorcing my ex. It was a complex situation and the man in question gave me a lot of support and a sanctuary to regroup. It didn't last beyond they ex finally fk off, but that's OK.

You have to kiss a lot of a lot of frogs (often toads) before you find someone.

My best advice is don't get your hopes up, treat every date as a coffee with a friend, learn something interesting, move on as required. NEVER take it personally if they ghost you.