Ex delaying mediation

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Separated from ex this year and co-parenting and communication has broken down. I believe mediation would help us to communicate better and agree on a schedule. I have had my MIAM but ex is now ignoring the mediators invitations and text me saying “I will respond when I’m ready”

He knows how much I want to sort this out and now he’s deliberately digging his heels in and who knows what “responding when he’s ready” means 🙄

Get the mediator to sign off that he wont attend and issue court proceedings. I have a similar ex. The only thing he responds to is a court telling him he has to!

He text me saying that they’ve been very “aggressive” in phoning him and emailing him. He’s continuing to ignore them. I’ve even offered to pay for his MIAM! I think he enjoys the fact that he knows how much I want to sort this out, for our children’s sake too, he seems to enjoy digging his heels in.

Yeah, it won’t get better. He won’t suddenly wake up to the error of his ways and the damage he is causing.

he thinks he has the power in this situation and is enjoying exercising that power. Get the letter to confirm he is not engaging with mediation and move on

all the best.

How long can an ex delay replying or booking their own MIAM?

Mediation is totally voluntary so if he doesn’t want to go, he doesn’t need to go at all.

Go as by @Mooselooseinmyhoose ’s message

As above, get mediation to sign it off . Put strict time scales in place and stick to them. I didn't do this to start with and am several YEARS diwn the line, still not divorced.

I agree that he’s enjoying using this way to abuse you and that you should get the mediator to sign saying that ex won’t cooperate.

In an ideal world he’d put on his bag boy pants but he’s probably getting a kick out of you chasing him. Be business like and stop hoping that he’ll be fair as he’s clearly not on the side of being reasonable and moving on.

Is he representing yourself? He’ll probably be getting a kick out of the thought that your mediators fees is increasing every time they call. Don’t fall into the trap and take control because you need to stand up for yourself now.