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Divorce/separation

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He gets away with it all

6 replies

Steffani87 · 24/11/2025 19:20

I am tired I have nearly been separated for a year and my ex husband are no closer to childcare arrangements or financial settlement we just keep going around it circles.

He gets away with lying on his form E, making up false allegations to social services and the police and his fiancé who he met a week after we separated says some really horrible stuff about me on her social media and makes out I'm alienating my children's father when I am not at all, he's the one lying to them and not being consistent.

Xmas state he has the children overnight twice a week he doesn't have them twice a fortnight as they stay at his parents a night on his weekend every fortnight since the summer and CMS won't take my word for it.

I'm tired of him getting his own way I just want him to leave me a lone and let me get on with my life with the kids.

I have a solicitor he doesn't. My solicitor doesn't think I should be forceful as it will only aggravate him. But if I don't I'm getting walked all over.

Any advice would be great.

OP posts:
BlackCatGoesHome · 24/11/2025 19:21

Change solicitors.

BookArt55 · 26/11/2025 21:29

I would go and see a new solicitor, get a fresh perspective. The current status is your ex runs the show and you sit back and wait for him to be ready... doesn't work like that. Potentially talk to a couple of solicitors and find one that fits for you.

jeaux90 · 30/11/2025 10:05

CAO op, do it via the court.

TeenToTwenties · 30/11/2025 10:14

If the staying at his patents is arranged by him, doesn't that count the same as staying with him? He is the responsible parent at that time surely?
Different if arranged by you.

HappyToSmile · 30/11/2025 17:07

Stay factual and don't let your emotions get involved. Difficult at first, i know.
Who is organising the kids staying at their grandparents? If it is him on his time, then I'm pretty sure thats up to him and still counts as "his" time.
And block her on social media so you're not tempted to see such posts. Ask people Not to tell you what they see as well.

Illbefinejustbloodyfine · 03/12/2025 09:53

Get a new solicitor OP. Yours sounds wet behind the ears.

Annoying as it is it's up to him where the dc stay on his time and not relevant to cms

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