Husband moving out today

[Beachlovingirl]

So I’ve posted here a few times but we separated in September at my request and he’s now moving out today after us living in the same house.

it feels really really strange. I know our relationship was over but I’m back there wondering if I could have just continued to tolerate it to stay as a family.

he’s taking some stuff from the house so that’s strange but not unexpected. He’s left the wedding album etc and we still have past years anniversary gifts around.

not sure what do to do with myself. I should probably go out but I don’t seem to be able to.

our DC are staying at his new house tomorrow night. Not sure how I’m going to respond to that even though I agree with it happening.

I wish we hadn’t have shared the house since August because I would be over it already, right?

It's going to feel very strange indeed for a while, but keep your eye on the prize - there's reasons why you initiated the split.

I think it takes 2 years to adjust really. The first year is dealing with everyone’s emotions and key events like Xmas done differently and then year 2 it feels more normal. I redecorated - ex always had opinions about decor which meant nothing ever happened. It keeps you busy and can help feel like a fresh start in a family home. I changed the dc rooms from child to teen with larger beds etc so they were excited about it. I also joined a posh gym with a spa so I had somewhere nice to go if the house felt too empty. 2 months is very early days.

Money and resources allowing could you think about doing something you couldn’t do when you were a couple.

For example if you compromised your style preferences to accommodate his taste now is the opportunity to get what you want. A good place to start is with a bedroom makeover. It might sound silly but maybe some new bedding, assuming you can’t afford a new bed. Let him take the old stuff and you can spend tomorrow picking out your new look and feel.

A slightly cheaper option is to go back to cooking meals you like but he didn’t.