I met a man four months ago who divorced a year ago and has a 5 year old. He lives about an hour away from the ex and child. I recently found out that when he visits the child on the weekend, he sleeps at the apartment that the ex and child live in. He said when he's there the ex wife either goes to a friend/family member's house or sleeps in the child's bed. Otherwise, he said he sleeps in her bed since he wants to have "dominance" whatever that means exactly. He pays for the apt since the ex wife is in school and doesn't have an income so I think he sees it as his territory and that he has the right to sleep in the bed, not her. He said he doesn't want to bring the 5 year old to his small apt in an urban area because it's not an ideal place to entertain her and I do get how that would be hard. He was very open when I asked him to clarify all this with me and I temporarily felt better but then I freaked out and felt like I am the second woman while he's over there on the weekend spending time with both the ex and the kid playing family unit/weekend husband. I also had images of them together after the child was tucked in drinking wine on the couch or watching movies etc, just clocking in a lot of hours together. I texted him an ultimatum to get a hotel for now and ultimately an apt in the suburbs to bring the daughter to. He responded that he doesn't want to do this and to let him know if I change my mind. I was thinking I'd go back and say forget the apartment but a hotel is the minimum I need to continue to see him but now I'm wondering if I'm overreacting and need to just trust him? I don't want to sabotague things but also don't want to be treated unfairly. Thank you