My now ex partner does the same pattens of behaviour everytime i want to talk about something more serious or regarding responsibilities etc. he gives me the same message that he doesn’t love me etc.
i don’t understand much about BPD and I’ve tried my hardest too. But after recognising this pattern and been given the very bare minimum of support I can’t cope anymore. Everything is always my fault ( I know I’m not perfect) and I’m discarded so quickly, even when things go well, I see him when he wants, we do what he wants, all on his schedule, I’m 22 weeks pregnant with his first child and expresses how happy he is and he wants this, but hasn’t even bought 1 outfit for baby either. What he says and does are 2 different things.
is this a part of bpd or ? I love him dearly and do not want to become a person to deem him or his bpd as abusive as I feel this is unfair.
But the emotional turmoil he takes me on, feels very much like he purposely wants me to feel shit about myself and he purposely doesn’t support us.
I read so many negative things online which sends me in fear.
I know I need to now keep the relationship ended for my own well being and babies,
but I feel lost because I desperately wanted a good bond between us all for babies sake.
I’m loosing hope he will even put baby first with how rigid he is in his own routines and life and how if things don’t fully go his way. It’s disgarded.
to add he’s never aggressive more laid back than me tbh. but I know the emotional turmoil isn’t deserved.
just need a friend x