I met my legal team today and was told I need to tell my STBEH that we need to stop using our joint account for personal use. I have been putting half of my salary into the account and so does he but I pay my personal expenses other than for my car out of my personal account. He pays all his expenses, lunches, coffees, car, everything out of joint account. He’s apparently building a case for maintenance for himself as I earn more. I dread bringing it up as he gets so explosively aggressive and then “punishes” me by ignoring and /or being passive aggressive for ages. I have to do it and take the consequences. He has had access and full control of my money for so long he won’t like this. We are still living separately in same house until we sell. Any tips to help me get this done????