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Consent order waiting time

16 replies

BarnsleyChop · 05/11/2025 12:31

My solicitor submitted the draft consent order to court yesterday. Any recent experiences on how long they are taking to go through at the mo? Thanks

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FancyCatSlave · 12/11/2025 23:14

Ooh following, ours got sent today. Solicitor said 6 weeks but that’s Xmas Eve and I think it will be after Xmas. Going to be a long wait!

I am also expecting it to get thrown back as ex didn’t get independent legal advice and it’s not all 50/50. We put a lot of explanation in (amicable) but I am sure it will get rejected first pass. Ex wouldn’t pay for advice though and I couldn’t do it for him so….

We can get the final order on 21st Nov but waiting for the consent order as we are only just listing the houses for sale. So much going on.

FancyCatSlave · 20/11/2025 17:17

Any news @BarnsleyChop?
I feel like this is the longest wait of my life and I’m only 8 days in 😬

BarnsleyChop · 20/11/2025 17:37

I am the same! My solictor notified me that it's been passed to a judge on 19/11. It was sent via the portal by the solicitor on 4/11 and has been undergoing checks apparently...

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FancyCatSlave · 20/11/2025 18:14

BarnsleyChop · 20/11/2025 17:37

I am the same! My solictor notified me that it's been passed to a judge on 19/11. It was sent via the portal by the solicitor on 4/11 and has been undergoing checks apparently...

That’s useful to know thank you.
I want it over with but I am dreading it all happening during Christmas too if that nakes sense. I don’t mind it getting sorted in Nov but I have visions of getting the final order on Xmas Eve….I’d rather wait until Jan.

We could in theory apply for the final order tomorrow but obviously can’t yet.

FancyCatSlave · 03/12/2025 10:21

@BarnsleyChop any progress for you?

3 weeks for me today. Getting twitchy!

BarnsleyChop · 03/12/2025 10:48

I heard last night, it's been granted last Friday. My solicitor checked on the portal. Might be worth ringing the solicitor? We had a pension share, equal share of house equity and pension and school fee agreement in our consent order.

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FancyCatSlave · 03/12/2025 13:30

That’s good news for you @BarnsleyChop not too long then for you in total. Do you have to wait 28 days to finalise the divorce because of the pensions? It will be a happy new year for you!

I’m expecting ours to be rejected initially but would hope they do that swiftly to give ex time to get some legal advice (we are in agreement to split the house 50/50 but he doesn’t want my pension which is considerably larger than his but didn’t get legal advice because he didn’t want to pay for it). I am sure he can get it through but imagine the judge will need convincing that he understands first.

Solicitor has confirmed it is with a judge at least, so it’s progressed.

BarnsleyChop · 03/12/2025 13:46

FancyCatSlave · 03/12/2025 13:30

That’s good news for you @BarnsleyChop not too long then for you in total. Do you have to wait 28 days to finalise the divorce because of the pensions? It will be a happy new year for you!

I’m expecting ours to be rejected initially but would hope they do that swiftly to give ex time to get some legal advice (we are in agreement to split the house 50/50 but he doesn’t want my pension which is considerably larger than his but didn’t get legal advice because he didn’t want to pay for it). I am sure he can get it through but imagine the judge will need convincing that he understands first.

Solicitor has confirmed it is with a judge at least, so it’s progressed.

I had some of his pension despite mine being an NHS pension and worth £ for £ not the same as his. DC vs DB contributions. I did get a financial advisor to help me come up with a deal. Ex had no legal advice although my solicitor who drafted the consent order did put a detailed rationale about the finances into the consent order. I need to wait til 23/12 to press the button on the final order. I will chat to him though as may do in the new year.

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FancyCatSlave · 03/12/2025 22:20

BarnsleyChop · 03/12/2025 13:46

I had some of his pension despite mine being an NHS pension and worth £ for £ not the same as his. DC vs DB contributions. I did get a financial advisor to help me come up with a deal. Ex had no legal advice although my solicitor who drafted the consent order did put a detailed rationale about the finances into the consent order. I need to wait til 23/12 to press the button on the final order. I will chat to him though as may do in the new year.

I have a bit of a thing about the final
order not being in the “Christmas period” as in I don’t really want the final order to be granted between about the 23-31 Dec. Which is a bit daft as I also want it over with. But I don’t want the anniversary of it to taint Christmas.

Weirdly I got home tonight to see that ex has had a letter to say it is with a judge but I have had nothing (it is a joint divorce application although I arranged the consent order). So either mine is delayed in post or I didn’t get a letter. But it was dated 26 Nov so I really hope it’s not too much longer. I’d be so thrilled for it to be over on paper so we can just focus on selling the house and moving.

Teflonslopeyshoulders · 04/12/2025 00:10

Both sides had legal advice and solicitor submitted the consent order on the portal on 13th November with a prior booked Court hearing scheduled on the 20th. My Solicitor informed me on the 19th that the consent order was signed off by the Judge and the hearing had been vacated. Split fairly even with no Children under 18. Just waiting the 28 days before pushing the final button.

BarnsleyChop · 04/12/2025 08:07

FancyCatSlave · 03/12/2025 22:20

I have a bit of a thing about the final
order not being in the “Christmas period” as in I don’t really want the final order to be granted between about the 23-31 Dec. Which is a bit daft as I also want it over with. But I don’t want the anniversary of it to taint Christmas.

Weirdly I got home tonight to see that ex has had a letter to say it is with a judge but I have had nothing (it is a joint divorce application although I arranged the consent order). So either mine is delayed in post or I didn’t get a letter. But it was dated 26 Nov so I really hope it’s not too much longer. I’d be so thrilled for it to be over on paper so we can just focus on selling the house and moving.

My ex got a letter from HMCTs about 2 weeks after the consent order was submitted saying it had been received. I got nothing. I asked my solicitor and she said only he gets a letter

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FancyCatSlave · 15/12/2025 15:03

I just got notification that my consent order was sealed this afternoon 🥳
I am astonished. I have pressed the button for the final order so hopefully ex will do his bit asap (joint application).

Unequal split in my favour. Don’t have to share my pension or my BTL!!!!! So, so relieved. Life is looking up at last.

Paperwork was filed 12 Nov and approved 11 Dec with no queries. Can’t argue with that ☺️

WetWashingWoes · 16/12/2025 07:29

FancyCatSlave · 15/12/2025 15:03

I just got notification that my consent order was sealed this afternoon 🥳
I am astonished. I have pressed the button for the final order so hopefully ex will do his bit asap (joint application).

Unequal split in my favour. Don’t have to share my pension or my BTL!!!!! So, so relieved. Life is looking up at last.

Paperwork was filed 12 Nov and approved 11 Dec with no queries. Can’t argue with that ☺️

congratulations!!! I can’t wait for the day.

We are just about to share Form Es and start negotiating. I have an NHS pension. He has very little pension. He wasn’t a stay at home dad. I carried us financially and domestically.

I’ve been told I’ll have to share my pension. Would you mind sharing what the rationale was for you getting a greater share please?

FancyCatSlave · 16/12/2025 08:01

WetWashingWoes · 16/12/2025 07:29

congratulations!!! I can’t wait for the day.

We are just about to share Form Es and start negotiating. I have an NHS pension. He has very little pension. He wasn’t a stay at home dad. I carried us financially and domestically.

I’ve been told I’ll have to share my pension. Would you mind sharing what the rationale was for you getting a greater share please?

Similar situation in that I have significant USS and LGPS DB pensions and has practically zero DC pensions. He’s been financially reckless, went bankrupt with his business and all the property etc was solely in my name.
In my case he agreed that he wasn’t morally entitled to my pensions and so he wrote a very clear account on the form. My rental house was my home before we met and rented out during the marriage. He also said he did not consider it marital property.

We split the family home 50/50, he contributed no deposit but he had proportionally paid towards mortgage. The equity from that is sufficient to provide us both with suitable large deposits for a home and relatively small mortgages.

We didn’t need Form E, we just used D81 and an online solicitor to do the consent order. But I have been extremely worried that the judge wouldn’t sign it off especially as ex had no legal advice. But it sailed through.

I guess the key thing is that we are amicable (ish), there was no abuse or 3rd party and he chose not to go after the rest. But it goes to show that 50/50 blah blah doesn’t have to apply.

We have 1 DD age 6 and agreed 50/50 custody and therefore no maintenance either. For all his faults he is an excellent, hands on parent. I wouldn’t say we are quite 50/50 now but he does half of pick ups/drop offs/bedtimes/meals. He will have a shock when he has to organise uniforms etc and all the mental load.

I’m very relieved about the outcome, divorce itself was only about £1200 and I’ve only lost about £150k.

WetWashingWoes · 16/12/2025 18:45

That’s fantastic. Well done and enjoy your freedom!! I can’t wait!

I don’t think my ex will do what’s morally right sadly. He’s being the opposite of amicable.

I didn’t know you could even get a consent order without a Form E.

Thanks for sharing.

FancyCatSlave · 16/12/2025 20:28

WetWashingWoes · 16/12/2025 18:45

That’s fantastic. Well done and enjoy your freedom!! I can’t wait!

I don’t think my ex will do what’s morally right sadly. He’s being the opposite of amicable.

I didn’t know you could even get a consent order without a Form E.

Thanks for sharing.

Form E is needed for court where couples can’t agree, D81 is for where there’s agreement and there’s full disclosure of assets. Because of the bankruptcy I knew his finances inside out so there was nothing hidden. Be careful your solicitor isn’t pushing for court as a way to make money out of you-although if he is non co-operative you will have no choice.

Hope it goes well for you.

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