Stbxh

[Imawifegetmeoutofhere]

We are in the early stages of our divorce and already don't know how I'm going to cope waiting the 20 weeks.
We have been living together still and I was hoping we could do this amicably and just move on with our lives.
Things have been strained but came to a head last night and he threatened me with calling my boss saying I hit my son (complete accident, we were fighting over a phone).
I originally wanted to buy him out but now he wants the house sold. I don't have a problem with this as this house holds a lot of awful memories.
He is so angry and I'm walking on eggshells afraid that anything I say he will twist and use against me.
How do people cope going through this?
I'm so sad and quite literally terrified 😨

@Imawifegetmeoutofhere so sorry you are going through this. It’s a very uncertain time isn’t it. I had a lot of trouble sleeping.

it isn’t up to him about the house as long as he gets his share of the equity it doesn’t matter how. You can buy him out that is your choice. He can’t stop you from doing that. My ex didn’t want me to buy him out because he kept saying there’s no way you can afford that but I could and this really irked him (we had a long history of him being irked my earnings…)

don’t be pushed around OP and if face to face conversations are just too much for you and your emotional well being then send him an email. It’s awful and terrible I know I’ve been there. Nowadays I have to be overly polite in case he kicks off and it’s hard work.

but you can do this you can get through it and see light at the end of the tunnel but you don’t have to engage with him, you don’t have to talk about why you’re spitting or you don’t have to listen to him raise any issues about you.