Hi im new to this so going to try keep it short if possible. Going through a hard time and hoping i can speak to anyone going through similar and any advice welcome ❤️
I have separated from my children’s father in February this year. Due to domestic violence. The criminal case has not yet been but we are currently going through family courts. We will be starting the contact center next week so he can have 1 hour weekly supervised visits.
He has not seen the children since February when we separated. The child’s witnessed the abuse. He has made no attempt to communicate with the children during this time. My eldest is 12 and a type 1 diabetic. He has a mobile etc and dad has his number. He got nothing for the children’s birthdays not even a card or happy he birthday text. His family have not spoken to me or the children since February either. His mother had called the police on me when we separated and said I was starving and neglecting the children. This was investigated and police showed up to check my cupboards and the children at 11pm at night.
his mother has called social services on me and when they came out to check and everything was dismissed she put 5 complaints into social services to say they weren’t doing their job properly. His whole family have made out that I’m a horrible liar who’s trying to destroy his reputation.
he has been charged and has bail conditions that he can’t contact me or approach me or come anywhere near where I live. I have since moved so he doesn’t know my location.
before he was arrested he wrote a suicide note on the back of the children’s painting that were on the fridge.
we are now going through the court process so he can have some type of contact and he is still making malicious accusations against me to his lawyer. Telling him he never got the kids anything because I would take them and not give the children them. He has now agreed to give the children gifts but wants them back when he has them.
his mother has made accusations that I’m an alcholic and on drugs.
I feel so dragged down. It’s so hard going through everything myself and having limited support whilst looking after my 12 year old and a 2 and 3 year old.
im having nightmares every night that they are going to take my children from me or murder me.
even after all this time they are still trying to attack me in different ways.
he has said there was never any abuse atall and tbat actually I was abusing him verbally and have given him ptsd.
when he was charged a neighbour had called the police because of the shouting and screaming and the police could see the marks all over my body so I had to tell them what had happened. They took photographic evidence, his suicide not and all the abusive texts and voicemails he had been sending me. Also the neighbours statements and my eldest child’s.
they have reports from the social workers after I was invested mainly because there had been domestic violence around the children but also because they had to investigate his mothers lies. I have reports from the school, the diabetes clinic the health visitors all to say that I am a good mum and there was never any cause for concern other than his domestic abuse charges.
mom so sick and tired of all these horrible lies being made against me from him and his family I just wish it would all stop. And we could just be civil and co parent separately once he can get help for his issues.
my eldest child is refusing to go to contact center which is understandable. The 2 babies are desperate to see their father off course they dont fully understand. Anyone ever been through or going through anything similar please reach out ❤️