It's done!

[ICantWaitAnotherMinute]

At times it felt like a long journey, however today it's all over and I am officially divorced.

Thank you for support with various threads/messages etc and good luck to everyone still on the rollercoaster.

Congratulations! The very best of luck with your new chapter. Enjoy your freedom!

Aah well done. Thank you for all your posts in support of my situation. Wishing you all the best on this next chapter ✨️

@ICantWaitAnotherMinute congratulations!
what are your plans to celebrate moving on? What are you most excited about now you’re divorced?

thank you! @R0ckandHardPlace & @Ashleyupnorth

@Beachlovingirl just spending the weekend with my children, had one teeny little cry this afternoon then shook myself off, chucked on some tunes and carried on. Spoke to some friends earlier today and they said I was sounding and looking really good, honestly the relief is immense.

I am really excited about being free, being single, being responsible for myself, not having to answer to anyone, not having to caretake others, not having to keep my mouth shut and not say things for fear of stonewalling or anger, getting my own place and making it a quiet, healthy safe space where my children and friends are welcome at any time. (Just got to sell the house now).

I am most excited about living authentically, being true to myself, and making sure I listen to my gut and not get sucked into unhealthy relationships. What are you most looking forward to?

@ICantWaitAnotherMinute you’re only human and of course you had a tiny cry as all of us would. I will do the same I guarantee you. you have to now recover from that period in your life and your friends are already noticing the real you coming back to life and what you said about the relief - I cannot wait for that.

I am looking forward to all of the same things as you. Bring free is the main one for me. I have been keeping my mouth shut for so long that even when there is no one who can over hear me and tell my ex what I’ve said I find myself saying something honest and then immediately back tracking in case someone is hearing. It’s mad! I hope I stop doing that at some point!

i really hear you on the creating a safe space for you and your children. I have to make my peace with the 50/50 custody and still it gets to me a lot. I worry I’ve failed the kids my placing them on his direct care half of the time.

You’re so right about listening to your gut and not being sucked into unhealthy relationships. I just need to stay away from all relationships from now on. This is a hard stance to maintain (especially when I watch such romantic stuff as virgin river!)

I can’t wait to lock my own front door and know that he can’t come in. I don’t have to deal with his stories about how he’s a total god at work but never gets any recognition (he’s terrible at his job) Lol I had better stop @ICantWaitAnotherMinute I’ll be here all day.

so happy for you that you can close that chapter of your life it’s so empowering to hear when people are finally divorced 😊

Well done, all of us.
I spent half an hour today just walking through my lovely little house, room by room, feeling like I could eat the silence and space and peace. Every room desperately needs painting but in my eyes it’s perfect.
Just so happy to live on my own, without tiptoeing around another person who really doesn’t like me very much.
well done us.

@NotnowMavis That sounds totally divine!

@Beachlovingirl one of the thing's I am looking forward to is having family and friends over (when I finally get to move into a new home!) Viewers booked in this weekend, fingers crossed they want to buy.

50/50 sounds really hard, I hope you fill the off week with lots of things to see and do. I was lucky in my 1st divorce that the ex had EOW, he could of have more time with the kids if he wanted to but he moved away (found himself another victim who happened to have a house he could move into).

I understand on keeping ones' mouth shut, we shall both move forward being open and honest and authentically us.

It's the complete coldness that sometimes is unbelievable to me. I always knew ex was brutal and able to cut people off very quickly and coldly but holy crap it blow me away. And I hate having to discuss house stuff, one conversation leaves me feeling truly awful.

I'll be like Mavis above when I finally get my own place, walking around revelling in the total silence.

Divorce recovery is so not linear, backwards and forwards, up and down, doing a lot of journalling and processing, my support network though have been truly awesome, every single one of them is an amazing friend and I must do something to say thank you 😊

I am looking forward to letting go of guilt, anger and not having to smell him.

I am looking forward to living my truth..it sounds so cliché but I am so excited at not having to pretend any more.

I am looking forward to feeling free.

I wish all of this and more for you.

This thread is giving me hope. Having a tough time, Dreading not seeing my kids every day and having to sell the home my kids love but you ladies are giving something positive to focus on.

@Beaniebobbins im planning to do a face time chat before bed when my dc are at the XH place and hoping this goes some way to provide some reassurance that they are fine, I will see them soon.

of anyone else has some handy coping mechanisms for the kids being away happy to hear those!