Is there a book for this?

[AriesFairy]

I am on the verge of separation from my DH. I am the instigator, he doesn’t want to leave. I think I probably need legal advice at some point as to what my rights are. I’m thinking about all of this and about issues further down the line like telling the kids, and wondering if there’s a book with advice on how to do it? I had a look on Amazon but nothing that looks like exactly what I’m looking for… I’m in the UK if that’s relevant. Podcast or website recommendations would work too. Anything you’ve found helpful on how to do stuff or that’s just made you feel less alone. I don’t really have anyone to ask for advice. Thanks in advance.

Just seen on page 1 of this thread a couple of recommendations

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/divorce_separation/5413480-how-to-handle-dd-wanting-us-back-together

Following!

Look at citizens advice and moneyhelper and advicenow websites for really good basic Introductory advice. I'm in Scotland so different rules apply here, but you will also find some solicitors websites go into a bit more detail about the things they can do for you.

In terms of telling children etc. I think you will get better advice on here from looking at past threads on how different people have decided to proceed as everyone has different circumstances and makes different decisions

Thanks everyone, this is really helpful. It’s that practical stuff I feel I need - like a checklist of things to think about. These are good tips, thanks.

I read a lot of the Divorce Now info and a lot on these boards, you will find a lot of help here. Sometimes the answer is just that there is no single right answer.

Fwiw I separated four years ago and only finally divorced this summer. It dragged on as I was trying to protect the kids relationship with their dad too much. Fact is he is an arsehole and I shouldn’t have put so much effort into trying to polish a turd.

Sending you love and strength!

The Divorce Podcast by amicable has episodes on many of the issues you raised, OP.