Ex cut me and the children off back in May 2025, because I said I won't stop the child maintenance claim and rejected his idea of us getting back together. Ps it has been more than a year that he claimed he earns £0. So I been getting £0.
Sil called me on Friday and asked me how can she get into contact with him. I said, I have no idea. He decided to shout at me and cut me out back in May. Both mine and ds1 phone have been blocked.
My dc have been feeling sad and abandoned by their father. Crying few times. The worst for ME was when ds1 came to my room crying and asking "why did dad give me this phone to call him anytime I want, for him no to answer?"
I comforted him and said your dad loves you, he is just currently distracted by something. I do not know what he is planning, all I know is that he loves you.
I hate ex for what he is doing. But now SIL is worried about his welfare. I repeated few times that an adult has decided to cut me & the dc out of his life. He said it clearly and deliberately back in May. To me, to the point that ds2 came running out of the house.
Do I have any responsibility or obligations to my dc to try and find the father of my children? Also how would I do this? Especially, since I clearly been told he is going to cut me out.
Ex has one brother, sister and a visiting sister. His parents died a long time ago. It is OK, to leave his siblings to look for him right? Sil was shocked to hear that ex cut contract.