My divorced was finalised earlier this year and I’m now in a headspace (finally) where I can start to think about things like changing my surname back. But how do I do it and what are the downsides eg travelling with the kids (one is 17 and the other 15 so I assume this won’t be much of a problem)??
I’m mostly worried about having to change it at work - I have a very client facing role and changing my surname feels like a big announcement about my private life to a lot of people. I do a lot of stuff at events internationally within the industry I work in and so it will also involve me changing my surname with several organisations. But I also don’t want my ex husbands surname anymore, and rationally I know that most people won’t gossip about it. I don’t know what I’m so worried about really but I am quite anxious at the thought of everyone knowing. Or somehow people getting confused and my entire career evaporates because they no longer know who I am with the different surname (again, I know this isn’t likely but I can’t help but worry). My ex was weirdly jealous of my career and did his best to sabotage it the last few years we were married and so I am quite paranoid about it all!
has anyone changed their surname back and how did they manage the process at work if they were in a similar situation to me?