How do I leave

[Rosemary1982]

I’m wanting out of my marriage but I just can’t see how it’s possible. I have no money and three children. My husband controls the finances and on paper it could look like I have money from his earnings but I see none of it - that makes me think I may not get help from
anywhere. I feel very trapped. I’m almost a qualified nurse and then will have some of my own money but then terrified I can’t work as none is there to look after the kids. Does anyone have advice on how I can do this? I have nobody I could stay with and he will make it very difficult

Get in touch with your local CAB or domestic violence service in person or women’s aid online. They can take you through the various steps to get you established financially on your own.

How long until you qualify? It’s vitally important you finish this as even if you find you can’t do shift work you can work in other settings and use childcare.

Qualify next year x

If you can manage it I’d wait until you have a job. But you will be okay, you’ll get half of everything, child maintenance and will be entitled to UC. The wait will be worth it!

Are you currently training and on a placement in a nhs organisation? If so, you can go to Safeguarding Team and they can help support plan your exit. They do this a lot. You can also speak to HR but they will liaise with Safeguarding Team so may as well go directly to them.

I am currently on placement and didn’t know this thanks for the info!

When you say he controls the money and you don’t see it what do you mean? Specifically do you have access to a joint account or any account to pay for your living costs or do you have to ask him for money. You are obviously a nursing student with access to some income.

What do you do with your benefits and student bursaries/ income?

Seems it’s financial abuse if you don’t have access to any money. Please speak to WA and the safeguarding team at work and the uni.